Old Habits Die Hard
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Hi Reader, As we develop and age, much of our behaviour becomes habitual. The statistics for just how much vary greatly, but at least half of our actions seem to be driven by habit. And the implications of habitual behaviour are greater than you may imagine. As such, it is important to make a conscious effort to foster good habits. A bad habit that seems trivial now could be devastating should your circumstances change. When placed under extreme stress, there is a tendency to rely on pre-established patterns of behaviour - we make more habitual responses than considered choices. 'Sometimes when people are under stress, they hate to think, and it's the time when they most need to think.'
Bill Clinton
So it's important to analyse your habits with honesty. And consider the impact of your habitual thoughts or actions. Know thyself. From time to time, I would like to include a comment encouraging spiritual development. Although I make no judgement on anyone's personal beliefs. For those of you who believe in an eternal spiritual path, consider this. Your behaviour has implications that impact this existence, and transcend to the next life and beyond. But the roots of your behaviour may extend back centuries, or even millennia. Some lessons can be harder to learn than others, and old habits die hard. Never underestimate the impact of bad habits or the longevity of their influence. Now is always the time to reflect and grow. I was given this to share. Keep moving forward. And be patient about how long meaningful growth takes. Your efforts will build resilience and strong foundations that you can depend upon under any circumstances. Focus on the light, always, Natalie Attenborough |
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