Family
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Hi Reader, I went home for a few days recently. My family home. My parents still live in the house I grew up in. It is a house filled with memories, and love. The same chair where I sat on my Mums knee as an infant, that I now sit in with my daughter when we visit. The dining room where my family shared Christmas meals after opening gifts. The bedroom I shared with my older sister. Every square inch of the house is crammed with memories. As is the village it is located in. And going there I feel the love and strength that the wealth of memories gives me. It is a mental recharge. A reset of me as I was. And helps me remember who I am. The impact of this recent visit was so strong it made me consider the effect of family division. If you can draw so much strength from a visit to your family home. Imagine the personal and collective impact of a family divided. This is a topic close to my heart as a single parent. I often ponder the full impact of divorced parents on a child or children, no matter how cordial the parental relationship remains. Between family there is an unseen bond that gives us strength, almost as if it has been woven into a tapestry. Or set in stone. Family fosters a collective well-being that deserves our respect - for the sake of ourselves, and all of our family members. And separation, divorce, or discord does not change that. If there is a divide in your family, any divide, do everything you can to mend it. Through resolution or acceptance. Focus on the light, always, Natalie Attenborough |
Focus on the Light
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